Sometimes we can't see or understand how stressed out our spouse is. Meridian Magazine is an online magazine for Latter-day Saints that has a Friday column where people can write into a therapist, Geoff Steuer, who will answer their questions. One week, a mother of four wrote in, worried about the birth of a … Continue reading Understand the Differing Capacities and Seasons In Others
Empathic listening
Understanding the Importance of Feedback
My mother’s love language was praise. That was a wonderful gift as a child but that also meant that negative language in any way was hard for me to hear. I was so primed to hear praise that when I didn’t hear it I was deeply affected. I distinctly remember right after we got married, … Continue reading Understanding the Importance of Feedback
Four Ways to Nurture A Relationship
In a recent post I wrote about criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling that kills relationships. In contrast the following four principles invite trust and two way communication: Keeping Our Commitments: Steven R. Covey says that when you want to build your own character, the very first thing you do is to make a commitment and … Continue reading Four Ways to Nurture A Relationship
"Peace Like A River…" 