Dr. John Gottman has created these parenting styles-- the Dismissive Parent, the Disapproving Parent, and the Laisezz-Faire Parent, in his book How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child. His research and a self assessment of parenting styles are in his book, and it has been a huge help to me to raise my awareness on … Continue reading Emotion Coach
Peaceful Parenting
The Disapproving Parent
I wrote in my last post here, about Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child, by John Gottman, PhD. I didn't know he was THE John Gottman, who is the marriage expert. From his website: "You may know Dr. John Gottman as “the guy that can predict divorce with over 90% accuracy.” " After watching thousands of … Continue reading The Disapproving Parent
Discipline
My father had a PhD in Sociology, which meant he studied the behavior of people. My mother had a PhD in Child Development. They taught me that you reward what you want more of in your children and punish what you want less of. My mother would always end in with, "And when parents aren't … Continue reading Discipline
We Choose What is Important Each Day
Julie B. Beck, a former General Relief Society President, said: “Mothers who know do less. They permit less of what will not bear good fruit eternally. They allow less media in their homes, less distraction, less activity that draws their children away from their home. Mothers who know are willing to live on less and … Continue reading We Choose What is Important Each Day
“Read to be Different”
This is Ryan Holiday's treehouse he had built for his son. I suscribe to Ryan Holiday's once a month book list. If you don't know who Ryan Holiday is, I wrote about two of my favorite books he wrote, The Ego is the Enemy and The Obstacle is the Way. He has a new book … Continue reading “Read to be Different”
“Easier and Cheaper to Outsource”
Clayton Christensen, the Harvard Business School professor said: " In my parents’ generation there was a lot of work that went on at the home. They had to preserve food for the winter; they needed to put coal in the furnace; they even sewed our clothes. Our gardens had far more vegetables than flowers. As … Continue reading “Easier and Cheaper to Outsource”
Four Simple Things
What if an older and wiser person told you he knew the crucial, essential activities to focus your family's time and energies on? Would you listen to him? Would the idea take root of less but better? My last post focused on three letters by confused parents, that wished they knew how to manage their … Continue reading Four Simple Things
Short Term Ease over Long Term Pain?
The art of being a Deep River Parent is a life long pursuit of focusing on the essential elements that will shape the character of our children. Many parents around us are showing us, “No, it’s too hard, too much energy and time. I am too busy with unessential pursuits.” A Shift in Parenting Has … Continue reading Short Term Ease over Long Term Pain?
Screen Free
My last post talked about the growing alarm from Silicon Valley over the power screens have over children. Some parents in the tech business want their children to be screen free. Some of these parents even have their nannies sign "phone-free contracts" so their children aren't exposed to an adult using a phone. An article … Continue reading Screen Free
“A Dark Consensus About Screens and Kids Begins to Emerge in Silicon Valley”
Teenage boy in a bedroom listening to music through his smartphone I have already written about limiting smart phone access here and here. From a New York Time Article in October 2018: "A wariness that has been slowly brewing is turning into a regionwide consensus: The benefits of screens as a learning tool are overblown, … Continue reading “A Dark Consensus About Screens and Kids Begins to Emerge in Silicon Valley”
"Peace Like A River…" 