Jennifer Kolari is a colleague of Dr. Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Mate`. My last two posts have been about their book, Hold On to Your Children. Jennifer Kolari is a Child and Family Therapist. She said she sees many parents who are seeing their peer-attached children acting out and behaving badly. She says she is … Continue reading C.A.L.M.
Setting Loving Boundaries
What is Our Work On This Earth?
This week I pulled out a small 5 X7 notebook from my collection of journals. I was curious why I had this shabby little book on my shelf. When I opened it, I felt like I was in a movie where light beams out of a magical book. It was my journal from the year … Continue reading What is Our Work On This Earth?
Training the Guests in Our Very Own Homes
A friend said to a group of us last week, "I am not complaining about my children that still live at home, I am struggling with my adult children who have come back to live with me because of Covid 19." I asked her if they help with meals and she said, "They help...", her … Continue reading Training the Guests in Our Very Own Homes
Way of the Warrior Kid
One of the crucial but magical stewardships we have as parents is teaching our children how the world works. For hundreds of years children have lived and worked in families, learning to feed and clothe themselves and navigate the world in order to thrive. Things have changed so much in the last 150 years to … Continue reading Way of the Warrior Kid
The Collapse of Parenting Part 2: What Matters Most?
Dr. Leonard Sax, the author of The Collapse of Parenting: Why We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Adults, said, "Which of the following, measured when a child is 11 years of age, is the best predictor of happiness and overall life satisfaction roughly 20 years later when that child has become a … Continue reading The Collapse of Parenting Part 2: What Matters Most?
The Collapse of Parenting:Part 1
This is a repost from Feb. 2020: This week we were getting on a chair lift to ski and the young skier in front of us brushed by the attendant who was checking everyone's ski passes with an electronic gun. The attendant yelled something at him like, "If you do that again---" and I didn't … Continue reading The Collapse of Parenting:Part 1
“Teach Every Child About Food”
I came upon this Ted Talk as a recommend. This is Jamie Oliver, a British chef and "restaurateur". He is passionate about educating children about food. He feels very strongly as you can see in the video. If you go to 11:14 you can see him in a class of 1st graders, maybe, and they … Continue reading “Teach Every Child About Food”
The Alarming Consequences of Chronic Sleep Deprivation
We were at a book group dinner with our spouses last Saturday night talking about the book Essentialsim: the Disciplined Pursuit for Less. I have had a few posts about Essentialism, because it has had a great impact on me. One point that Greg McKeown makes in his book is that sleep is essential. It's … Continue reading The Alarming Consequences of Chronic Sleep Deprivation
Emotion Coach
Dr. John Gottman has created these parenting styles-- the Dismissive Parent, the Disapproving Parent, and the Laisezz-Faire Parent, in his book How to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child. His research and a self assessment of parenting styles are in his book, and it has been a huge help to me to raise my awareness on … Continue reading Emotion Coach
Discipline
My father had a PhD in Sociology, which meant he studied the behavior of people. My mother had a PhD in Child Development. They taught me that you reward what you want more of in your children and punish what you want less of. My mother would always end in with, "And when parents aren't … Continue reading Discipline
"Peace Like A River…" 